There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.
– George Sand
Being in love is a beautiful feeling. But after the honeymoon phase is over, people start to drift apart, the argument increases and many more difficulties pave a way in the smooth sailing of relationships. The problem doesn’t only lie within the partners but lies in our mentality and perspective towards love.
The TV series or movies, they portray a wrong idea of what actual, lasting relationships are like. The beginning of a relationship might be similar to what we see in the movies, the relationships that last the longest become more “real” further on down the road and simply isn’t always goes like happy ever after. It withstands the ups and downs of life where both people gradually develop an understanding of each other’s perks and embrace it, accept it with an open mind.
The most common myth is that relationships are (or should be) easy. That is a big fat lie. The grass always looks greener in other people’s lives, because few people share the truth of the amount of work that goes into relationships. Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work.
So here are some of the most important aspects of relationships on which the partners should work to make it long lasting:
Love is built on trust.
It is a must for having a healthy and long-lasting relationship with your partner. But it can’t happen overnight, it is a gradual process. Majority of people struggle with trusting their partners and often cross check everything. Doubting is in the very human nature but taking it to an extreme isn’t just unhealthy but also makes the person very insecure and unhappy in a relationship. Ironically, this kind of behavior leads to a lot of pointless arguments. So, it is suggested to be reasonable/rational/understanding when your other half gives you a reason for not doing something and accept it.
Again, a very important aspect. Communication is the essence and the very basis of any relationship. Most of the times, lack of communication is the reason for parting ways. Lack of communication doesn’t only happen because of having hectic and clashing schedules, but also because of clashing egos. It is very important, to put aside your ego when you are in love. Always make time, however less, but always keep a tad bit time from your busy schedule for your loved ones. If both of you are facing any issues, be vocal and openly discuss it with your partner. Communicating with your partner can do wonders!
Be honest, because there is no end to lies. Lying is an addictive habit. It always starts with some small harmless lies and before you knowit, it becomes a habit. If you intend to spend your rest of your life withsomeone, it’s their right to know the real you. If they love you, they will understand and embrace your perks to a certain extent.Afteralll,no ones perfect!
Having respect for each other even while hitting a low show with how much integrity you hold that person. Don’t demean each other and make it ugly, because words once said can’t be taken back. Always respect your partner.
Relationships ain’t a bed of roses. It isn’t perfect. You both must have some habits which your partner wont like or disapprove of. On one hand you shouldn’t change yourself for someone, but the important thing is if that change makes you a better person, then why not! Relationships should make you a better version of yourself and that isn’t same as change! Always welcome positive changes in your life!
Both the parties should compromise for each other and adjust a bit, given any situation.
- Care and Affection
It is a very obvious one but is definitely important. Many a times, after the initial phase, we stop making our spouse special. Then most people often say that they have lost the spark. To keep that spark alive, it’s important to treat your better half to some surprises once in while so that they never feel like being taken for granted.